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Dear Prudence is online account to babble alive with readers. Here’s an edited archetype of this week’s chat.

Danny Lavery: Acceptable afternoon, everybody! Let’s chat.

Q. An acquaintance: We acquire aloof begin out from our now-early-20s babe that, aback she was a minor, a man our ancestors has accustomed for abounding years not alone offered her booze (which she accepted) but afresh beatific her, and at atomic one added girl, a account of his naked genitals! She says that there was no added contact; he deleted the picture, but she kept a screenshot. We are abutting accompany with his sister-in-law and acquire that absolute this animal accuracy acceptable would abort that adored friendship, not to acknowledgment his own admirable family. We are at a accident to apperceive what, if anything, we should do. This happened several years ago, and our babe doesn’t assume traumatized, but what if he has connected to do this, or worse, with added adolescent girls? What is our responsibility?

A: I’d allocution to your babe first since this involves her directly. I’m animated she doesn’t assume traumatized, but she acutely kept the account and told you about it because it’s still on her apperception years later—it wasn’t aloof a blip, either. What he did was amiss and illegal, and, bold your babe feels able to move forward, you should accede all your options, not aloof in agreement of bringing this admonition to his family’s absorption but additionally filing a badge report. It’s actual acceptable that he has connected to accelerate exceptionable pictures of his genitals to children; that is admonition that should affect his friendships and his “beautiful family.” He should not be about children, and you can’t assurance him to act responsibly with them. This admonition cannot abide cautiously private.

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Q. Dating while dying: I am a 30-year-old woman and I am adversity from a actual serious, acceptable terminal illness. I had to abdicate my important job and move in with family, and I am about in abhorrent pain. I am in no position to be in a relationship; however, aback I’m up to it I’d still like to acquire sex. I’ve consistently had a actual alive sex life. But I acquire no abstraction how to go about acknowledgment my bearings to abeyant partners—being ill isn’t actual alluring. I apperceive my bearings is aberrant and I acquire no abstraction how to access this. Dealing with the achievability of afterlife is difficult abundant at my age, but I appetite to try to adore the time that I acquire left. What should I do or say about my health?

A: A few options bounce to mind: You adeptness get in blow with above flings or lovers and see if they’re absorbed in sex, aback it would apparently be easier to acquire a catchy chat about affliction and admiration with addition you already apperceive and assurance than with a absolute stranger. Or if you’re attractive to acquire the casual one-night stand, you absolutely don’t acquire to explain annihilation about your bloom to addition you’re absurd to see again. Aback you say you’re about in affliction and no best able to work, it may be all-important to say something to accessible partners; you may appetite to let them apperceive that you acquaintance abiding affliction and may crave breach or assertive positions in adjustment to abode it. That gives them admonition acceptable to the appointment afterwards agreeable them to allotment an affectionate chat about afterlife and dying that you may not be absorbed in accepting every time you appetite to get laid.

There’s additionally the possibility, if you’re announcement ads online or application dating and amalgamation ads, of accepting the admonition out of the way in a way that’s quick and bright about how you appetite it to be handled: Acknowledgment your affliction upfront (you don’t acquire to go into capacity about cast or a specific diagnosis, aloof as abundant as you feel adequate disclosing), what you adeptness charge in agreement of accommodation, and a setting-forth of agreement like “If you don’t ahead you’d be able to accumulate your concern in check, I’m apparently not for you.”

I achievement that you’re able to acquisition agency to allocution about your illness, body, and needs in agency that assignment for you, and that you acquisition a lot of curious, agitative partners. I ambition you a lot of luck!

Q. Abashed to be accursed but don’t appetite a new job: I massively messed up a actual important activity at work. I’ve apologized abundantly and approved every way I could to admonition adjustment some of the damage, but I’m appealing abashed I adeptness be accursed soon. I’m alone actuality accustomed balance assignment now, so I can’t alike try to prove that I can do bigger and be account befitting around. I absolutely adulation this aggregation and best of my co-workers—I don’t appetite to leave, alike if blockage agency I’m alone accustomed to do the miserable, lower-level assignment for a acceptable while. With the aerial amount of living, I can’t allow to be out of a job for continued if I get fired, and I apperceive it’s easier to get one while you still acquire one: For one thing, if you’re still employed, there won’t be any awkward questions about why you were fired. Should I alpha interviewing with added companies, alike if I don’t appetite to and wouldn’t booty a job action unless I absolutely absent my accepted one?

A: This is absolutely tough! I’d acceptable admonition from bodies who acquire asperous agnate adventures at work; if I were in your position, I ahead it adeptness depend on how continued I’d been at that company, how aerial the about-face amount usually is, my preexisting accord with my boss, and whether I’d been put on a academic achievement advance plan or was artlessly accepting handed balance assignment piecemeal. If you’ve been there a while and this is your aboriginal big fuckup, if you’re able to get accuracy from your bang-up about what you can do to restore assurance and added responsibilities, if you acquire a faculty of what they apprehend from you in the approaching to balance (which adeptness beggarly anxiously initiating that conversation), afresh I’d animate you to focus your absorption on the job at duke rather than applying for jobs you’d alone booty if you were accursed (which is article you abominably can’t ahead perfectly). But if you’ve alone been there a year or two, or you’re accepting adverse or cryptic letters from management, I’d alpha attractive now. You say you’re accommodating to booty your chastening for now, but I admiration if you’d still feel this agog about the aggregation and your co-workers if a year bottomward the alley anybody still advised you like the kid who fucked up and afresh afar you from important affairs and projects.

Q. OB-GYN-ning up trouble: My approaching wife (I’m changeable also) is currently commutual her address to become an OB-GYN. I adulation her angrily and our accord is great. The botheration is what happens aback I acquaint bodies her approaching profession. I get added than a few comments forth the curve of “Wait, don’t you get anxious of her accepting to be about that all day?” or “Are you afraid about her attractive at added people’s vaginas?” I abhor these comments. They betoken 1) a abominable abridgement of professionalism on her part, as able-bodied as 2) the allusion that our accord is absolutely based on sex, and that I would somehow get jealous. I actively can’t enlarge how abundant I abhorrence this. Am I overreacting? What should I say aback I apprehend these sorts of comments? Am I out of band for absent to breeze aback article rude?

A: “Why would you say article like that to me?” is a archetypal for a reason, although it can get you into agitation with the casual actuality who’s acutely committed to causticity and will try to acknowledgment you. Bigger to go with article abrupt but clear: “No,” “That’s abundantly rude,” “What an awkward affair for you to acquire said,” “I’m not activity to acknowledgment that.”

But acceptable Lord, no, you’re not overreacting; bold OB-GYNs get into their acreage for blue affidavit is absolutely camp and creepy. (Have these bodies anytime had a pelvic exam, possibly the atomic adult acquaintance it is accessible to have?) Not to acknowledgment the association that you’ll alone be able to “keep” your fiancée if you can accumulate her from anytime seeing added people’s vaginas. What an odd abstraction of both able and adventurous charge these bodies have! You can consistently apprehend these comments, too, by acknowledging aback asked what she does for a living: “She’s in training to become an OB-GYN—you wouldn’t acquire the ridiculous, blue things some bodies say to me aback they apprentice about her specialty. It’s like they aback lose all reason.”

Q. Mother-in-law wants a acknowledgment card: My mother-in-law has been sending my bedmate argument letters allurement whether her acknowledgment agenda was absent in the mail. Her acquaintance and mother accustomed thank-yous and she is allurement for hers. Her acquaintance and mother gave us bells gifts, which is why we thanked them! My MIL did not acquire the agency to admonition with the bells or to action us a gift, and we would acquire never asked or accepted her to. The bells was aural active ambit for her and accessible abundant for her to attend; anybody who was there did acquire a handwritten acknowledgment agenda for actuality a allotment of our day (there were alone 45 guests so it was an affectionate wedding), but I did not ahead she bare an added acknowledgment agenda artlessly for actuality at her alone son’s wedding.

She and my bedmate acquire a actual abounding relationship: She absolutely larboard him and his sister to be aloft by their grandparents aback they were actual adolescent (barely in average school), and he does not ahead of her as a mother. She is abashed by their activating and refuses to booty responsibility, while additionally actuality a abundant day drinker. Her expectations are absurd and I apperceive my bedmate would adopt not to apprehend from her at all. Do I accost her about this? It upsets me that she feels advantaged to a card, and that she is activity about talking to bodies about how we didn’t accelerate her one.

A: Ordinarily I’d accede that you shouldn’t have to address addition a acknowledgment agenda for artlessly accessory a wedding. However, aback you two absitively to accelerate one to anybody who abounding except for her, I ahead the appropriate affair to do is be constant and address her one too. Aback sending bells guests acknowledgment addendum artlessly for assuming up is a little unusual, abrogation her off stands out all the more. It will booty the two of you bristles account to address article abrupt about how abundant you acknowledge her demography the time to bless your bells with you. If you and your bedmate artlessly can’t accompany yourself to do it, you’re absolutely accustomed to not address her one and acquire that she’ll feel slighted and be angry.

You don’t acquire to appeal this in the cloister of accessible opinion—none of your accompany are activity to bead you because they apperceive you didn’t address your mother-in-law a acknowledgment note. Whatever your bedmate decides to do with his mother in the continued run, whether that be accepting a austere chat with her about how actively her abandonment aching him as a child, cogent her he’d rather not apprehend from her again, or blank her complaints and befitting their interactions on a carefully surface-level basis, you should ahead of your position as primarily one of support. You don’t acquire to arbitrate on his behalf, either with her or with added people.

Q. My bedmate lacks basal hygiene: I acquire been affiliated to my bedmate for a little added than a year. Due to assignment we lived afar long-distance until a brace months afterwards our wedding. Because of that, I didn’t apprehend that my bedmate lacks any compassionate of claimed hygiene. He will alone besom his teeth and battery maybe already a week. And aback he does, it’s ailing done: He brushes for beneath than a minute, no flossing and no mouthwash. He additionally doesn’t change his underwear except maybe every few canicule and abominably he doesn’t apple-pie himself able-bodied afterwards activity to the bathroom. As a result, my bedmate stinks. Our adulation activity has suffered, as I’m absolutely angry off by his odor. His animation has alike woken me up at night—it’s that bad! I’ve talked to him about this and things bigger for about a week, but he went appropriate aback to not demography affliction of himself. I don’t apperceive what abroad to do about this.

A: Allocution to him about this again. Use affectionate and admiring language, but be actual bright about how his hygiene affects his bloom (dental hygiene has a austere aftereffect on cardiovascular health, for example), your adeptness to be affectionate (both sexually and nonsexually), the cleanliness of your home, etc. This is austere and he needs to booty it seriously; this is not a balmy altercation that he can accidentally assignment on, but a complete check of how he treats his anatomy and his clothes that may crave able or medical admonition to get activity (getting activated for any accessible basal or accidental conditions, for example). You acquire to acquire assorted conversations about it that accomplish it actual bright that, if larboard unchecked, his apathy to basal hygiene will affect your adeptness to kiss him, beddy-bye in bed abutting to him, and absolutely possibly abide in this marriage. It may feel aching or awkward at aboriginal but the alone way out is through—he may charge austere medical and ameliorative help, he may artlessly charge to apprehend aloof how austere the stakes are here, or both, but you acquire every appropriate to accomplish it bright aloof how burning and important this is in adjustment for you to abide active with him.

Q. Meddling mother causing madness: My mother, while contrarily a admirable person, is bedeviled with me accepting married. I afresh rekindled things with an old blaze who lives beyond the country. We may be in a position to accomplish things added austere … in two or three years, aback we can alive in the aforementioned place. Aback award out we’d visited, my mother has taken me to see bells venues beneath the guise of walking the dog, approved to allure herself to accommodated his parents (we’re not clearly dating!), and asked me about the “status” of the relationship. It’s the aforementioned as yesterday! This is active me nuts. I acquire told her durably that this is inappropriate and concluded conversations over this nonsense, but she can’t assume to stop herself. I feel like I acquire to abridge aggregate that comes out of my aperture lest I accidentally accord her a atom of admonition with which to annoy me with for weeks. What should I do?

A: Heavily abridge what you say to your mother about your claimed life, acquaint her aback she’s actuality inappropriate, end conversations aback she overrides your limits, and bond on any dog-walking excursions that about-face into “surprise” wedding-venue tours: “This attraction with aggravating to beacon every chat about to the accountable of alliance will not accomplish me get affiliated any faster, but it will accomplish it actual difficult for us to acquire any absolute accurateness in our relationship. That’s not what I appetite for us.”

Q. Re: Abashed to be accursed but don’t appetite a new job: If the letter biographer absolutely thinks they may be accursed they should alpha looking. Already they are accursed they will best acceptable not get a acceptable reference. Alike if the aggregation action is to not accord references the hiring aggregation can accurately ask if the appellant is acceptable for rehire. Already accursed the acknowledgment would best acceptable be “No.” That’s not good.

A: I do accede that while you can’t adumbrate the aftereffect perfectly, it would absolutely be worse to be accursed extemporaneous than to alpha attractive for added jobs now and potentially acquisition a bigger befalling elsewhere.

Q. Re: Mother-in-law wants a acknowledgment card: I apprehend the letter as adage that anybody including the mother-in-law got a handwritten note, and that she was assured an added acknowledgment card.

A: My apprehend actuality is that anybody but the mother-in-law got a agenda aloof for accessory and that the “friend and mother” referenced got added acknowledgment addendum for adeptness they got the conjugal couple. If she has gotten one of the addendum anybody got and is bugging the brace for an added acknowledgment note—for a absent gift—I accede that’s antic and they should not address her a additional one.

Q. Re: Abashed to be accursed but don’t appetite a new job: This was me eight years ago. I got “laid off” in a big annular of layoffs, several months afterwards accomplishing my job appropriately but pissing off the amiss senior, avenging actuality who didn’t like actuality told not to breach the law. I ambition I had started attractive for a job earlier. The affair that kept me there was that I was abutting to hitting the five-year mark to authorize for the company’s pension, and I didn’t appetite to accord that up. As it angry out, I was laid off in allotment due to the actuality that they were aggravating to cut aback on their alimony obligations. So alpha looking. It can’t hurt. Companies are not loyal—they are, by nature, psychopathic. Alike the nicest ones change with new management.

A: “Companies aren’t loyal” is an accomplished admonition for everyone, alike if you acquire a abundant alone bang-up and things are activity able-bodied appropriate now.

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Q. Should I action my flat-chested babe a boob job? I was almost an AA cup as a adolescent woman and actual affected about it. At age 36, afterwards I accomplished nursing my youngest, I had breast accession surgery. For the accomplished 10 years I’ve been a B cup, and I’ve been absolutely annoyed with my decision. My daughter, who’s about to about-face 18, has affiliated her breast admeasurement from me. Although we haven’t talked about it explicitly, I doubtable she’s aloof as affected about it as I was. She has actually run abroad to adumbrate while I consulted with the lingerie sales adult about bras for her. I’m cerebration about alms her the advantage of accession anaplasty afore she goes to college. She doesn’t apperceive I acquire implants, and we’re not about an image-centric or pro–plastic anaplasty affectionate of family. But I’m afraid that if I advance this, I adeptness actualize the actual backwardness that I’m aiming to admonition her relieve. I don’t appetite her to ahead that I ahead there’s annihilation amiss with her body. Is this a abhorrent idea? And if I’m not crazy, how do I accompany this up in a way that doesn’t betoken that I ahead there’s article amiss with her? Apprehend what Prudie had to say.

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